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“ A colleague once looked me up and down and said "You sounded taller on the phone"!

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“ Your nose is so big.

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“ A major high street fashion chain does not stock above size 14 in their stores as standard. I was told so by a sales assistant when I asked if they had a size 18 in a dress I fell in love with. She said - ‘We’re a high-fashion retailer and there are other brands that cater specifically for women like you’.

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“ Odd glasses

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“ I stopped shaving during lockdown. Every time people see my face on a video chat the first thing they say are comments on my beard. I am not my beard. I am a human being!

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“ Some guy told my trans-woman friend that no man would want her because she still looks too masculine. To this day, that statement makes me feel physically sick. How can someone be so horrible?

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“ You’re really nice, you deserve to be taller

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“ "If you went to the gym to work out you would have a great body." - my boyfriend at the time.

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“ My first experience of shaving my pubic hair was when I was 15, when my first boyfriend told me that I should shave. Prior to this I had no idea that pubic hair was shameful. 11 years later, although I know I am not shaving for myself - I still feel like I wouldn't be able to enjoy sex without shaving.

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“ It would be good if your arms were as muscular as your brother’s

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“ "You look so different without make up". A colleague commenting on my appearence as I haven't been wearing make up on work video calls. But I'm like, I look - and importantly - I feel great today, so can you just not comment on my face please?!

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“ "You look like a baby but no offense, it's so cute !" Since that, I felt like I could never be a sexy and strong woman.

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“ Today my mom told me that I should not cut my hair shorter because it would put forward my chubby cheeks.

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“ I have a small birthmark on my forehead and got called "Harry Potter" by other girls at school when I refused to cover it up.

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“ I've lost a few pounds and people keep congratulating me like I've done something amazing. It feels really strange. I know they are not technically 'shaming' me, but its like there was something wrong with me before.

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“ My boyfriend at the time told his ex: "I was never ditching your DDs for [my] A-cups." Which she proudly told me.

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“ I once sat in on my sisters physical therapy session. Her therapist turned to me as I was giggling at my sister and said ‘I don’t know why you’re laughing. You can’t wear a big jumper to hide that big belly forever’. Totally unrelated to why I was laughing, and I was 12. That’s 12 years ago and I still think about it when I wear loose clothing.

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“ You've lost weight since you've been working from home. Haven't you?

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“ My boss (a man) said to me "we need to talk about your weight gain."

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“ Friends were talking about what cosmetic surgery they would have. I said jokingly that I'd have my nose reduced. My boyfriend said in front of everyone "oh no you'd be better off getting your lips implanted."

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“ "You're very low breasted"--a shop assistant told me this.

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“ I was told that no matter how good I dress or how much make up I wore, I was never going to look like girls on social media. No guy wants a girl like me and that I should be lucky that a guy like him is with me. Said by my toxic ex boyfriend.

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“ When I was in 6th grade my best friend told me that my ass is big, wide and unatracttive unlike hers...

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“ “Do you like my new outfit?” “Well, you look like you could lose a little weight.” -my dad

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“ "Who is that little boy?" just now, by my brother in law after noticing my short hair on my profile picture on a messaging site.

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“ "Awesome dress... if only it wasn't red... you would look less fat" one of my sisters to another....both then laugh... it was my birthday party.

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“ How do you have hair on your stomach and you're a girl eew

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“ Hurry up and find a mate cuz once your looks fade nobody will love you and you're not pretty to begin with so you better hurry.

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“ Wow, she let herself go (if i wear no make up or girly clothes) but if i do it's - wow she's wearing make up and a dress what a cheap w****.

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“ When I was 14/15 and had got stretch marks on my hips which I thought were normal but didn't know what they were called when my mum saw them gasped and in very concerned voice said "you have stretch marks? Why didn't you tell me!?" And after the next time she went to the shop she had got me bio oil for them without even talking to me about any of this.

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“ My school captain was body shaming me with her friends saying “how much do you think she weighs?” and her friend replied “it hurts my head trying to think about how much she is”.

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“ Maybe with more time at home you will lose some weight.

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“ Your face isn’t symmetrical.

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“ Omg I didn't know you could look that hot.

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“ "You're still too pretty to stop colouring your grey hair, but I'll definitely let you know when it's time to stop." - My boyfriend.

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“ You would be so pretty if you lost some weight.

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“ Once when I was eating a packet of crisps, my brother was watching me with revulsion and said, with so much contempt, "Don't you KNOW how disgusting you look?" I was 16 and I've never forgotten it, although I'm nearly 40. I think it's the single most unkind thing anyone has ever said to me — no one can wound quite as much as a sibling can.

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“ A friend was talking about another friend who had lost weight but started to put some back on. "She's worked so hard, I'd just hate to see her ending up like me or you."

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“ Every time I got dressed up to go out my Dad would say “you’d be such a pretty girl, if only you’d lost a bit of weight”. Every. Single. Time.

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“ When I was 9, my parents were divorcing and I was going with my Dad...I overheard my mother telling him not to give me seconds or I’d get fat.

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“ "You have a red nose" (I have rosea)

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“ No offence, but are you happy with your body as it is?

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“ You have lovely, long eyelashes but they're quite droopy, like a donkey's. We do lash lifts here - would you like the details?

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“ I've got just the primer to smooth out your pores, they're very large and visible across your forehead and cheeks.

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“ I always get told when I turn red in social situations. It’s something I’ve learned to put to the back of my mind to keep myself confident, but when someone points it out it makes me more and more uncomfortable.

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“ I'd dye my eyebrows if I were you. You're completely missing the trend - it's like you're stuck in the 90s.

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“ “I'm not saying you're fat, it's just you're normally skinnier” - my sister.

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“ Let me squeeze that spot for you.

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“ My friend told me I needed to shave because I looked "scruffy". I had an interview coming up, and I was really nervous, his comments made me feel like I didn't get the job because I looked too scruffy.

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“ You have really large pores.

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“ Female former line manager, when I raised with her some clear sexism and undermining by a male subordinate: "well, you'd lost weight when he started in post so it can't have been about your weight".

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“ 60 odd year old allegedly 'Christian' woman (and my line manager at the time): "you can help us out with this but you need to stop wearing eyeliner and lipstick, it's intimidating".

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“ In the second half of my second pregnancy- "Are you SURE you're not having twins?" From lots of people. Including total strangers.

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“ When I was 12 someone asked me "are you a boy or a girl" and I think about that so much, still, it causes so much self doubt (I am 35 now).

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“ “You need to pop that huge pimple, it’s so ugly” it's a mole.

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“ You’re too tall to find a boyfriend, being a lesbian would be more useful.

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“ My friend looking at my brow said: "What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder."

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“ People keep telling me I need to use the gym because it's healthier, but I know they only say it because I'm fat.

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“ You and your partner look like you've just eloped from high school in your wedding photo.

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“ Someone once said to me I was so thin I could dodge rain.

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