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“ You wear a size 16? You don't look that big. Lucky you!

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“ You're better looking with your glasses on.

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“ "You dress so well for your size!" A very common comment from both friends and strangers as if it's a big surprise that a fat person can dress well.

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“ "I like how your face is a different colour to the rest of your body" - A comment from a friend about me wearing the wrong shade of foundation and not realising.

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“ "At least you've lost weight since you've had this illness." - My coworker to me while I'm going through a diagnosis for a chronic illness.

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“ Your baby girl looks like a boy. You should dress her in more feminine clothes.

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“ Last year I went to a job interview for a coffee shop. At the end of the interview that had gone very well I was told the owner doesn't allow any more than 'one stud in each ear' so I would have to remove the rest of my piercings. There are no health and safety standards that require you to not have metal in your face or ears in a coffee shop.

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“ "You'll never get a boy to like you when you're that thin." - My nan in the kitchen in front of my mum when I was 13 and struggling with anorexia. My mum didn't say anything on the matter.

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“ My daughter always points out my nasal hairs.

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“ Sometimes you go a little over the top with your make-up and it's embarrassing. None of my friend's wives wear make-up.

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“ I told a friend I was cutting my hair. I have a fringe and she said, “oh so you’re going to look like dora the explorer.”

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“ Moms shouldn't allow their young sons to have long hair. They look like girls!

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“ “You look so much more like your sister when you are thinner.” - Said by my mom.

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“ "Are you sure you've never had high blood pressure, gestational diabetes or any other complications?" - Asked by my doctor repeatedly as if she couldn't believe a fat mom of four could have all low risk pregnancies.

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“ You shouldn't wear shorts even if you're perfect (too thin) as it gives the wrong idea to other girls.

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“ "You look better with less/more weight on" - the amount of times I've heard this from fellow women breaks my heart.

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“ Your concealer is too dark for your face. You have orange blotches.

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“ When I first saw you I thought you were a 'three pinter' but now I know you, your personality has changed my mind.

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“ You could fry an egg on that greasy hair.

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“ "I'd probably wear a swimming costume if I were you" - my friend.

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“ I had a guy tell me on a first date that I was really pretty. He said if I lost weight I'd be even prettier. That he'd probably have to beat a few guys off of me with a stick now but if I lost weight he'd have a long line of guys to do it to.

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“ My sister likes to point out my wrinkles every time I see her.

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“ "There's something very wrong with your hair." - My boyfriend the first time he saw me without my hair straightened.

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“ When the sun hits your hair you're a right ginger. Are you a secret ginger?

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“ I’ve got a serious back injury and I am on medically advised bed rest. When talking to my mother about food she said "don’t eat too much else you’ll get heavy!"

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“ "Maybe you should keep your hands out of the wedding pictures, let's just say they're not your best feature." - My husband in front of our wedding photographer at our first consultation.

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“ Why is it only ugly, fat women that are feminists?

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“ I was bullied between the ages of 10 and 15 for being overweight. I started a disastrous diet for 6 months eating only carrots and apple. I had hormonal imbalances, depression, and lost my beautiful hair forever. I was hiding away from people thinking that I was still ugly and fat. Then I started eating normal and for 2 decades I maintained a healthy weight until I had insomnia. Due to lack of sleep I would empty the refrigerator just to calm my self down. You can't imagine the comments I received - people thought I was 'lazy' and indulging in food. I stopped listening to their comments and decided to lose weight because I want to be healthy and exercising helped me with my insomnia. I'm taking things easy and not stressing myself by setting a time frame for losing weight.

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“ I was walking home from working and as I passed a car full of lads one said "Shame about her nose!".

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“ You can't get away with short skirts anymore. Dress your age. Do want to look like mutton dressed as lamb?

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“ “You’d be so much prettier if you lost weight”. That’s a classic one! So many comments about my weight when I was literally a child: yes I was a bigger child, but a child all the same. And even when I lost quite a bit of weight the feeling of being ‘ugly’ was still with me, and I felt even worse because I denied myself the food I love. So now I eat and wear what I like, but it is so deeply ingrained it’s hard for even the biggest feminist to escape. I like to wear colourful make up and cool, ‘out there’ clothes. I get lots of funny looks. But I’m not dressing and styling myself for anyone else but me. So I’ll have my blue hair, tattoos, and eat my fries and cake thank you.

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“ If you want the results that you're imagining, it's going to take a bunch of work.

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“ A taxi driver was once helping me put my suitcase in the boot of the car in front of friends and stangers, and remarked “that’s so heavy, what've you got in there? I know you're a big girl but still”, as if my size some how correlated with how much I had packed.

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“ My Mom was telling our company, " You should see her (my) fat rolls when she's sitting in the bathtub, she has three rolls!" - laughter all around. I wanted to die.

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“ When I was in high school- an all girls school- my classmates made fun of how big my boobs were after swimming in P.E. class. They called them jugs which is very offensive. I haven't been swimming in 14 years.

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“ My sister told me my panties are "so big" and asked me what size of underwear I will be wearing when I'm a grandma.

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“ He told me he likes thin, dark skinned girls with short kinky African hair and small boobs because they are more sensitive. I'm a chubby, light skinned girl with long permed hair and cup size DDD.

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“ "You look blobby." - said by my mum, maybe once a month since I can remember.

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“ "When Mum brought you home from hospital the first time I wanted her to take you back because I thought you were fat and ugly. You also stank." - My sister. I still fight against feeling ugly, fat and smelly after about 30 years.

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“ My toes are quite curled over and somebody called me "crow toes" at school.

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“ My friends called me 'finger toes' when I wore sandals to an evening out. I never buy or wear open shoes because of that and it was 15 years ago.

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“ I was an athlete in high school (soccer) and we trained all year long. I'm five feet tall and was able to develop lots of muscle. I was constantly told by the boy's team that I had "man legs". It was relentless and embarrassing. I didn't try out for my university's team and told everyone I wanted to focus on my studies rather than the real reason which was to stop my body from bulking up. I only do cardio now and this was over 20 years ago. If everyone thought "is this true, is this necessary and is this kind" before they spoke then a lot of people would suffer less.

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“ “Is this the year you finally stick to losing your weight? No one wants to be a fat 30 year old.” - My sister.

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“ You have such tiny nostrils, I've never noticed before. They're hilarious.

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“ “You put on weight over Christmas.” - said by my sister.

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“ "I didn't sign up for a fat girlfriend. You really need to get on top of your weight gain it's getting out of control. I don't like being seen out with you and you've forced me to have to say something." - My first serious boyfriend.

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“ I had a very stressful period and gained 8 kilos quite fast. My boyfriend told me I had "fat drooping from the sides". I cried the whole evening. Later he apologised. With time I lost those kilos and more, but ever since I haven't even considered wearing anything close-fitting.

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“ I walked into my family Christmas to "what's with all the cleavage?". I've put on weight and so my chest is more prominent than before. I spent the whole day with my coat on because I felt so embarrassed and humiliated

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“ "Cover them, no one needs to see this." "You look like you're breast-feeding." "They are huge!" "You look slutty in that dress." Just some of the comments I get about my DD breasts which make me feel awful and hideous.

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“ I was 16, had just finished school and started junior college. A boy who sat beside me in class in the first week looked at my arms and said, "you should wax your arms. All girls do." My arms barely have any hair, it's literally invisible. He was a random person.

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“ You should do something about your hair, it's so boring.

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“ OMG. You have so many pimples on your face! Why don't you put some make-up on? Your face looks so dull.

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“ When I told people I was going to join the rowing club because I live near the water and want to meet some new people almost everyone I told said “your back and shoulders are going to get big.” No one said “wonderful! You’ll get in great shape, or get strong” etc. God forbid we do something that makes our heart, muscles and bones strong if it makes our back and shoulders big!

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“ When we used to go out for family dinners my mum wouldn’t let me eat in the restaurant because I was too fat. I’m now scared to eat out.

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“ My gym instructor said to us last night to 'eat in moderation' over Christmas and not 'throw all the good work on our figures away'. I go there to keep fit and feel good, not to worry about how I look and be encouraged to think like that.

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“ When me and my ex boyfriend broke up he told me that he never liked my hairy legs anyway.

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“ Three weeks after my son was born I went out for the first time and a female friend commented “you look really good for just having a baby, you only have a tiny Buddha belly”. I went home shortly after and cried.

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“ My mother-in-law asked me to stay away from the mirror during my pregnancy lest the baby might turn out to be dark skinned like myself!

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“ "The world isn't fair. Some people get to look like Kylie Jenner and then others look like me and you."

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“ My husband calls me 'Frodo' because I have hairy toes. I wax them religiously but it upsets me so much.

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