#EverydayLookism

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Story 463
“ When I was 15 my dad looked at me and said “I don’t understand how you can spend so much time in front of the mirror doing your hair and make-up, but not spend any time doing something about your weight.”
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Story 462
“ Just imagine the hot girl that's underneath all that fat.
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Story 461
“ I like you better in make-up and underwear.
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Story 460
“ You have 'short man syndrome'.
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Story 459
“ “I prefer your personality when you wear makeup! “ -an ex boyfriend
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Story 458
“ I haven't noticed how big your feet are before. They're like barges.
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Story 457
“ “Roses are red, violets are black, why is your chest as flat as my back?” - Tinder Match
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Story 456
“ The repeated needling of my mother throughout my life: "Why can't you be more ladylike?!"
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Story 455
“ My grandmother, having not seen me for a few months, patted my stomach and said "you've put some weight on haven't you!"
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Story 454
“ You’d be so much prettier if you lost some weight.
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Story 453
“ “Now you’ve decided you’re not having more kids you can focus on your body” - My aunt.
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Story 452
“ My mum puts on a great buffet with far too much food every time we all go over for a family day. She encourages everyone to tuck in, except me. I am always told that the food isn't for me because of my weight. I usually eat what I want and she tells me I am bad and shakes her head. I love my mum but when she polices my food it and judges me it hurts so much.
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Story 451
“ You wear a size 16? You don't look that big. Lucky you!
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Story 450
“ You're better looking with your glasses on.
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Story 449
“ "You dress so well for your size!" A very common comment from both friends and strangers as if it's a big surprise that a fat person can dress well.
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Story 448
“ "I like how your face is a different colour to the rest of your body" - A comment from a friend about me wearing the wrong shade of foundation and not realising.
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Story 447
“ "At least you've lost weight since you've had this illness." - My coworker to me while I'm going through a diagnosis for a chronic illness.
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Story 446
“ Your baby girl looks like a boy. You should dress her in more feminine clothes.
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Story 445
“ Last year I went to a job interview for a coffee shop. At the end of the interview that had gone very well I was told the owner doesn't allow any more than 'one stud in each ear' so I would have to remove the rest of my piercings. There are no health and safety standards that require you to not have metal in your face or ears in a coffee shop.
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Story 444
“ "You'll never get a boy to like you when you're that thin." - My nan in the kitchen in front of my mum when I was 13 and struggling with anorexia. My mum didn't say anything on the matter.
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Story 443
“ My daughter always points out my nasal hairs.
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Story 442
“ Sometimes you go a little over the top with your make-up and it's embarrassing. None of my friend's wives wear make-up.
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Story 441
“ I told a friend I was cutting my hair. I have a fringe and she said, “oh so you’re going to look like dora the explorer.”
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Story 440
“ Moms shouldn't allow their young sons to have long hair. They look like girls!
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Story 439
“ “You look so much more like your sister when you are thinner.” - Said by my mom.
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Story 438
“ "Are you sure you've never had high blood pressure, gestational diabetes or any other complications?" - Asked by my doctor repeatedly as if she couldn't believe a fat mom of four could have all low risk pregnancies.
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Story 437
“ You shouldn't wear shorts even if you're perfect (too thin) as it gives the wrong idea to other girls.
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Story 436
“ "You look better with less/more weight on" - the amount of times I've heard this from fellow women breaks my heart.
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Story 435
“ Your concealer is too dark for your face. You have orange blotches.
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Story 434
“ When I first saw you I thought you were a 'three pinter' but now I know you, your personality has changed my mind.
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Story 433
“ You could fry an egg on that greasy hair.
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Story 432
“ "I'd probably wear a swimming costume if I were you" - my friend.
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Story 431
“ I had a guy tell me on a first date that I was really pretty. He said if I lost weight I'd be even prettier. That he'd probably have to beat a few guys off of me with a stick now but if I lost weight he'd have a long line of guys to do it to.
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Story 430
“ My sister likes to point out my wrinkles every time I see her.
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Story 429
“ "There's something very wrong with your hair." - My boyfriend the first time he saw me without my hair straightened.
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Story 428
“ When the sun hits your hair you're a right ginger. Are you a secret ginger?
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Story 427
“ I’ve got a serious back injury and I am on medically advised bed rest. When talking to my mother about food she said "don’t eat too much else you’ll get heavy!"
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Story 426
“ "Maybe you should keep your hands out of the wedding pictures, let's just say they're not your best feature." - My husband in front of our wedding photographer at our first consultation.
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Story 425
“ Why is it only ugly, fat women that are feminists?
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Story 424
“ I was bullied between the ages of 10 and 15 for being overweight. I started a disastrous diet for 6 months eating only carrots and apple. I had hormonal imbalances, depression, and lost my beautiful hair forever. I was hiding away from people thinking that I was still ugly and fat. Then I started eating normal and for 2 decades I maintained a healthy weight until I had insomnia. Due to lack of sleep I would empty the refrigerator just to calm my self down. You can't imagine the comments I received - people thought I was 'lazy' and indulging in food. I stopped listening to their comments and decided to lose weight because I want to be healthy and exercising helped me with my insomnia. I'm taking things easy and not stressing myself by setting a time frame for losing weight.
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Story 423
“ I was walking home from working and as I passed a car full of lads one said "Shame about her nose!".
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Story 422
“ You can't get away with short skirts anymore. Dress your age. Do want to look like mutton dressed as lamb?
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Story 421
“ “You’d be so much prettier if you lost weight”. That’s a classic one! So many comments about my weight when I was literally a child: yes I was a bigger child, but a child all the same. And even when I lost quite a bit of weight the feeling of being ‘ugly’ was still with me, and I felt even worse because I denied myself the food I love. So now I eat and wear what I like, but it is so deeply ingrained it’s hard for even the biggest feminist to escape. I like to wear colourful make up and cool, ‘out there’ clothes. I get lots of funny looks. But I’m not dressing and styling myself for anyone else but me. So I’ll have my blue hair, tattoos, and eat my fries and cake thank you.
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Story 420
“ If you want the results that you're imagining, it's going to take a bunch of work.
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Story 419
“ A taxi driver was once helping me put my suitcase in the boot of the car in front of friends and stangers, and remarked “that’s so heavy, what've you got in there? I know you're a big girl but still”, as if my size some how correlated with how much I had packed.
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Story 418
“ My Mom was telling our company, " You should see her (my) fat rolls when she's sitting in the bathtub, she has three rolls!" - laughter all around. I wanted to die.
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Story 417
“ When I was in high school- an all girls school- my classmates made fun of how big my boobs were after swimming in P.E. class. They called them jugs which is very offensive. I haven't been swimming in 14 years.
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Story 416
“ My sister told me my panties are "so big" and asked me what size of underwear I will be wearing when I'm a grandma.
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Story 415
“ He told me he likes thin, dark skinned girls with short kinky African hair and small boobs because they are more sensitive. I'm a chubby, light skinned girl with long permed hair and cup size DDD.
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Story 414
“ "You look blobby." - said by my mum, maybe once a month since I can remember.
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Story 413
“ "When Mum brought you home from hospital the first time I wanted her to take you back because I thought you were fat and ugly. You also stank." - My sister. I still fight against feeling ugly, fat and smelly after about 30 years.
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Story 412
“ My toes are quite curled over and somebody called me "crow toes" at school.
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Story 411
“ My friends called me 'finger toes' when I wore sandals to an evening out. I never buy or wear open shoes because of that and it was 15 years ago.
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Story 410
“ I was an athlete in high school (soccer) and we trained all year long. I'm five feet tall and was able to develop lots of muscle. I was constantly told by the boy's team that I had "man legs". It was relentless and embarrassing. I didn't try out for my university's team and told everyone I wanted to focus on my studies rather than the real reason which was to stop my body from bulking up. I only do cardio now and this was over 20 years ago. If everyone thought "is this true, is this necessary and is this kind" before they spoke then a lot of people would suffer less.
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Story 409
“ “Is this the year you finally stick to losing your weight? No one wants to be a fat 30 year old.” - My sister.
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Story 408
“ You have such tiny nostrils, I've never noticed before. They're hilarious.
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Story 407
“ “You put on weight over Christmas.” - said by my sister.
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Story 406
“ "I didn't sign up for a fat girlfriend. You really need to get on top of your weight gain it's getting out of control. I don't like being seen out with you and you've forced me to have to say something." - My first serious boyfriend.
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Story 405
“ I had a very stressful period and gained 8 kilos quite fast. My boyfriend told me I had "fat drooping from the sides". I cried the whole evening. Later he apologised. With time I lost those kilos and more, but ever since I haven't even considered wearing anything close-fitting.
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Story 404
“ I walked into my family Christmas to "what's with all the cleavage?". I've put on weight and so my chest is more prominent than before. I spent the whole day with my coat on because I felt so embarrassed and humiliated
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